Denial

“The five stages of grief”, developed by the Swiss-American psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying”, is one of the most well-known analytical frameworks of modern psychology. Based on Kübler-Ross’ comprehensive fieldwork on terminally ill patients, the model originally aimed to understand how people cope with death, and not grief per […]

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A love like no others

A dark hospital room illuminated only by the dim light emanating from the IV drip he is attached to day and night, the silence interrupted by the odd beeping of the machines when the quiet flow of the “toxic cure” is blocked. A frail, pain-stricken body tossing and turning in bed restlessly, hugging a brown […]

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“Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.”

You may write me down in history With your bitter, twisted lies, You may tread me in the very dirt But still, like dust, I’ll rise. Does my sassiness upset you?  Why are you beset with gloom?  ‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells Pumping in my living room. Just like moons and like […]

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Chemo rage

“Pain is good”, says the doctor. “We are killing nerve cells. Pain means it works”. And you know he is right. You are in war, a war with no rules. No jus ad bellum – the cancer does not consult the UN to wage a “just war”; no jus in bello – the cancer does […]

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The burden of human suffering

Don’t try. You cannot even begin to understand. The “overwhelming burden of human suffering – disease, mutilation, grief, age and death” that Benedict Anderson so aptly described, the inability to come up with a straight answer to the simple yet agonizing question “why him?” are not things that could be grasped vicariously. For us, however, […]

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